De-Program Yourself from Slut Shaming

Jul 13, 2015 Slut shaming is one of the deepest internalized prejudices that most people seem to have, regardless of gender. Even with my extremely liberal upbringing and a very conscious effort as an adult to deprogram deep-seated misogyny and macro/microaggressive racism, I still find myself judging other women and my own sexual past harshly…

How To Be Body Positive During Sex

Jul 27, 2015 Prior to my ex, I always tried to figure out a way to cover up my body when it came to sex. I was a big believer in “fake it ‘til you make it” and developed a dual persona in my later teen years: the big, bombastic, confident fat woman that was…

Processing Victim Blaming and Chrissie Hynde

  As I got older, Chrissie Hynde became one of my rock heroes. I cut my hair like her and dyed it dark, rimming my eyes will heavy kohl liner on the bottom. I’d wear menswear inspired pieces unbuttoned low with tight jeans, vests, and heels. I did karaoke to “Tattooed Love Boys” and winked…

How My Abortion Made Me A Better Person

Sep 23, 2015 Recently, Congress voted to de-fund Planned Parenthood in an attempt to shut down access to abortions. Representative Judy Chu, a democrat from California, accurately described it as a “witch hunt to scare providers from providing abortions” as Republicans showed doctored videos of fetuses, suggesting that doctors did nothing when botched abortions occurred. …

How The Porn Industry Is Getting Seriously Feminist

11/21/15 A couple of months ago, I spoke with local feminist porn stars and producers Courtney Trouble and Kitty Stryker of Trouble Films and (soon-to-be) Stryker Studios. At the time, Kitty was still with Trouble Films. Photographer Suma Jane Dark, her assistant Margalit Carolinensis, and I met at Courtney Trouble’s home in Oakland to photograph the…

Jes Baker Tells Us The Things No One Tells Fat Girls

11/4/2015 Jes Baker and her crew of badass feminists took over San Francisco’s The Booksmith bookstore last week for Baker’s anticipated book release “Things No One Tells Fat Girls,” a brilliant body positive anthology composed of many different tales and perspectives on self-acceptance and unlearning patriarchal beauty standards. Accompanied by Sonya Renee Taylor, Virgie Tovar, Sam…

7 Things To Know About Dating a Bisexual Woman

  Nov 18, 2015 As a feminine woman who identifies as queer, I experience daily erasure of my identity from both the heterosexual world and from the queer community.  A lot of folks assume that because I present as feminine, and because I am with a cis hetero man, my life experiences prior to my…

9 Ways To Navigate The Holidays with Conservative Family Members

Sometimes finding a balance between respecting and disrespecting my elders is tough. I know that struggle. I grew up in the south, and I was taught to show respect to my elders, regardless of how wrong they are. That’s a hard thing to do when you’re a fat, bisexual, purple-haired, socialist teenager who is totally…

4 Reasons Why We Need Fat Liberation

Jan 4, 2016 I respect anyone who identifies as fat and want them to feel at home within the movement.  I hear Marie Southard Ospina when she feels erased as a smaller-bodied fat activist. There is a place for “small fats” at the table, however sometimes it may be the kid’s table.  It’s important to…

Amber Amour, Rape Survivor, Censored on Instagram

Jan 14, 2016 TW: rape Dang, Instagram… when you step in some misogynist shit, you really step in it. I mean, first you remove an image of poet Rupi Kaur’s innocuous portrait of herself, lying in bed, fully clothed, with a visible menstrual stain and suggest that it does not fit community guidelines.  Most recently to…