Overcoming The Trauma of an Abortion

… When I found out that I was pregnant, I knew immediately that I had to have an abortion. I struggled with the idea and wrestled with my intense desire to be a mother. You see, there are few things that I know I am meant to do in life.  I do know that I…

De-Program Yourself from Slut Shaming

Jul 13, 2015 Slut shaming is one of the deepest internalized prejudices that most people seem to have, regardless of gender. Even with my extremely liberal upbringing and a very conscious effort as an adult to deprogram deep-seated misogyny and macro/microaggressive racism, I still find myself judging other women and my own sexual past harshly…

Processing Victim Blaming and Chrissie Hynde

  As I got older, Chrissie Hynde became one of my rock heroes. I cut my hair like her and dyed it dark, rimming my eyes will heavy kohl liner on the bottom. I’d wear menswear inspired pieces unbuttoned low with tight jeans, vests, and heels. I did karaoke to “Tattooed Love Boys” and winked…

Re-thinking the She-Rection: Navigating HSDD

Sep 10, 2015 Three years and three rounds of anti-depressants later, things are not as hot or as frequent as they used to be.  Pop culture and porn all tell me that I am supposed to be having the best orgasms of my life more often and more frequently. I’m supposed to be fucking like…

How My Abortion Made Me A Better Person

Sep 23, 2015 Recently, Congress voted to de-fund Planned Parenthood in an attempt to shut down access to abortions. Representative Judy Chu, a democrat from California, accurately described it as a “witch hunt to scare providers from providing abortions” as Republicans showed doctored videos of fetuses, suggesting that doctors did nothing when botched abortions occurred. …

My Weekend In The Psych Ward

Jan 19, 2016 (Trigger Warning: suicide, institutionalization) Tonight, I found out that I have lost yet another friend to suicide.  Yet another person whose hand I could have held, whose phone call I would have taken, whose live, warm body could have been in my arms.  Once the initial shock wears off, I am left with…