De-Program Yourself from Slut Shaming

Jul 13, 2015 Slut shaming is one of the deepest internalized prejudices that most people seem to have, regardless of gender. Even with my extremely liberal upbringing and a very conscious effort as an adult to deprogram deep-seated misogyny and macro/microaggressive racism, I still find myself judging other women and my own sexual past harshly…

How To Be Body Positive During Sex

Jul 27, 2015 Prior to my ex, I always tried to figure out a way to cover up my body when it came to sex. I was a big believer in “fake it ‘til you make it” and developed a dual persona in my later teen years: the big, bombastic, confident fat woman that was…

Processing Victim Blaming and Chrissie Hynde

  As I got older, Chrissie Hynde became one of my rock heroes. I cut my hair like her and dyed it dark, rimming my eyes will heavy kohl liner on the bottom. I’d wear menswear inspired pieces unbuttoned low with tight jeans, vests, and heels. I did karaoke to “Tattooed Love Boys” and winked…

Re-thinking the She-Rection: Navigating HSDD

Sep 10, 2015 Three years and three rounds of anti-depressants later, things are not as hot or as frequent as they used to be.  Pop culture and porn all tell me that I am supposed to be having the best orgasms of my life more often and more frequently. I’m supposed to be fucking like…

How The Porn Industry Is Getting Seriously Feminist

11/21/15 A couple of months ago, I spoke with local feminist porn stars and producers Courtney Trouble and Kitty Stryker of Trouble Films and (soon-to-be) Stryker Studios. At the time, Kitty was still with Trouble Films. Photographer Suma Jane Dark, her assistant Margalit Carolinensis, and I met at Courtney Trouble’s home in Oakland to photograph the…